Opportunity Knocks What Will You Do?

Opportunity Knocks What Will You Do?

Each day is a new opportunity; another chance to say yes to what brings you joy. Every day is a gift. What did you do with your gift today?

When you awoke this morning, what was the first action you took? Did you check your e-mail, peruse social media, pray, meditate, or did you say, “thank you Lord for another day”? I imagine that the majority of people scrolled social or checked e-mail. From there you got started with your day: morning care, breakfast/coffee, drop off the kiddos, and head to work.

At some point you logged in or should I say you attempted to log into social media, and nothing would load. How many times did you turn your cell phone or tablet off? Did you reset your device? Or perhaps you deleted the apps and then reinstalled them only to realize you still could not access your favorite content creator or influencers post, story, or reel.

What did you do when you finally accepted that Facebook, Instagram, and Whatsapp were not available? How did you fill your time?

Time is a gift. Time is a blessing. Time is an opportunity.

So today opportunity knocked. Today you had time. Today you had space; you were not distracted by social. Today you didn’t waste time.  

Friend let’s be real, social media is designed to suck you in and have you scrolling for minutes to hours on end, ultimately wasting time, energy, and emotions. Social has been found to negatively affect people’s self-esteem and self-worth. 

But NOT TODAY. Today you didn’t get sucked in. Today you didn’t waste time or energy. Today the filters and social media gurus didn’t have you second guessing who you were. 

I’m going to ask you again, how did you fill your time? What did you do when you couldn’t log onto social media?

My guess is, you were productive, effective, and efficient. My guess is you were present on your job and most importantly with your family. How did it feel to get stuff done? How did it feel to look your coworker and family in the eye and have dynamic and engaging conversation? 

If I was a gambling woman, I would bet $500 on double zero on roulette table that being off social media was nice. You finally had some breathing room. I bet you were super productive. You got your work done, maybe ran some errands, cooked dinner, and had quality time with the people who truly matter to you.

Friend, social media is not real life; it’s only a small glimpse into other people’s lives. Your life—the life you lead off the internet is REAL. Your life is what matters. How you spend your time and how you expend your energy are opportunities.  

Your time is an opportunity to be great, to do the things that you dream of, to live and stop watching other people’s lives. 

I challenge you today to start living. Friend start logging off of social media. Set limitations on how long you access apps that are distractions. 

It is time to dream big, to do the inner work, and take action to capitalize on your opportunities. Time is finite. Opportunities come and go. Don’t miss out on your blessing. Don’t miss out on life while watching someone else’s. 

If I can support or encourage on this journey called life, you know how to reach me: Stephanie@professorepps.com.

Now, Go be great! Day 1 over 1 day. 

Peace and Blessings,

Stephanie

"Perks" of Retiring from Higher Education

Hey Friends! Hope you are well and filled with peace. It’s been 2 months since my last blog post. Let me catch you up on life and allllll the things. 

The last few months have been filled with loving on my princess and hubby. We have traveled, laughed, and swam to our hearts content. I’ve maintained my commitment to only work 2-3 days a week at my NP job and I’ve grown my business.

I chose to retire from education because my heart was called to something different. Teaching other people how to overcome burnout and live intentionally is what I enjoy. I love helping, teaching, encouraging, and supporting.

Stepping out on faith was hard. Leaving a job with financial security, retirement, and excellent benefits was and still is scary.

It has been 3 months and I haven’t missed a beat or had to sacrifice my wants or needs. I’m not saying that you or anyone should quit their job. What I am saying is live life on purpose, plan, do the work, and take action. God will provide. If you do your part, he will do his.

Last month, I finally returned to pre-Covid sales in my business. I have faith that my business will continue to thrive because of the energy I expend towards it and towards my family.

Living with intention matters. Waking up every day I decide how my day will go. I no longer hold any resentment or negative feelings about what I can’t do because of work.

I am blessed to be able to decide what I do and where I go when I want to. Other than discussing my plans with my spouse, I don’t have to consult anyone or figure out how I can “make it work.”

As a professor I didn’t receive PTO/vacation days. There was no opportunity to take a vacation outside of Thanksgiving break, Christmas break, or spring break (2021 there was no spring break). In the last 3 months, I have set personal and professional boundaries, traveled, and rested.

Faculty were required to return to school for Fall 2021 the day my daughter had her first day of school. My daughter is 5 and this year (last week) was her first time going to school. My mother has cared for my daughter when my husband and I had to work.

If I had not transitioned away from higher education, I would not have been able to take her to school or pick her up.  For 5 years, my husband and I have been unable to travel to celebrate our anniversary because of mandatory university requirements.  Last week was the first of many great experiences. Next week I have the opportunity to attend a weeklong conference in support of downtown and economic development. If I were teaching, I would not have been able to attend this conference.

Additional “perks” of no longer teaching are:

1. Researching topics of my own interest,

2. Limiting email/internet communication

3. Improved attitude

4. More energy

5. More joy

6. Happiness

7. Quality time with friends and family

To clear the air, I didn’t hate my job. I actually enjoyed teaching and observing my students excel. Although, I liked teaching, I knew that I was not operating in all of my gifts.

God has a purpose for each of us. It is up to you to follow your purpose and do the work.

What do you desire? What actionable steps are you willing to take to transform your life? If there is a dream that you have, I invite you to write it down and start working on it. 

Why not you? Do it scared. Permit your faith to be bigger than your fear.

Day 1 over 1 day.

Mental Health Matters

May was mental health awareness month. You might find it odd that I share this blog the day after mental health awareness month, but there’s a reason. I write this blog as a reminder. A reminder of the past, the present, and for you to understand the importance of your future.

Yesterday was Memorial Day. 5/31 marked the 100-year anniversary of the Tulsa massacre. The lives that were lost in battle and in the town of Greenwood matter. The mental health of soldiers and their family’s matter. The mental health of those affected by trauma directly or indirectly matters. Your mental health matters.

As we move into June, you likely can recall receiving a few emails, or seeing social media posts, and other online content regarding mental health in the beginning of May; but you likely noticed that the discussion on mental health over the last week or 2 declined.  

This blog is to remind you that mental health matters every day. The mental health of your friends and loved one’s is important. Psychological health affects physical health. When you’re sad, anxious, worried, or overwhelmed, you don’t have clarity. You don’t know what wait to turn or what action is best.

When your mental health declines your physical health declines. You began to have physical pain and symptoms secondary to your psychological health. 

This blog is a call for action. I am telling you to prioritize your wellness. There is nothing worth your health. No job, no charity, and no person who truly values you, will want you to suffer. Speak up. Ask for help. Use your company benefits, insurance, and free services to help pull yourself up.

I’ve been in therapy for almost a year and it’s the best thing I could have ever done for myself. My therapist has helped me change my life. Friend, I used to be in dark place, a place I never I want to return to. I would be sad and alone and cry, but I pulled it together before my kiddo or my hubby saw me. I felt I had to be strong and get “it” done, and you know what I did. 

I was strong. I took care of business. I did all the things for all the people, except me. I smiled, I excelled, I worked, I went to school, opened a business, and I cared my family. I was the friend that everyone came to with their problem’s, but I didn’t feel I could off load my stuff to anyone else. It wasn’t until I began to think my sadness could effect my family that I sought out help.

When I met my therapist, she asked me what gives me joy and when was the last time I was happy. I sat there for a moment and then I just started to cry. The moment that came to mind was the summer before we got pregnant. I remembered so much joy, freedom, and fulfillment. I told her, “I want that….I want that type of joy again. I want to be free. I want to be happy.” During that time in my life, I wasn’t working 60-80 hours a week, I wasn’t in school, I wasn’t taking care of everyone else all the time (work, home, business, etc). It was a time where I had less on my shoulders. I was able to rest.

I have an amazing husband and the most loving daughter that when I shared the last time that I was happy, I felt bad. I felt guilty. I thought my feelings were that of a bad mother and wife. My therapist told me that I wasn’t a bad wife or mother. She helped me identify burnout. You would think after years of researching burnout, I could see it in myself…but I couldn’t. I was so deep into that I wasn’t able to see the signs in myself.

My therapist also helped me identify high functioning depression. I am not ashamed of depression. I am not ashamed to say I have had hard days and dark days and that I survived them. I am so much better because of therapy. I give credit to therapy, yoga, boundaries coaching, and prayer to be where I am today.

Folx that don’t understand mental health, trauma, or their impact can’t process why some people feel that they can’t go on. Prayer isn’t the only avenue to health.

As a person of color, I didn’t grow up with people talking about mental health or trauma. But now, I look at my nieces and nephews and Gen Z and I am so thankful that we are speaking up about the importance of total health (mental, physical, and spiritual).  

I share my story in the hopes, that you remember the importance of your mental health. Every day you wake up, check in with yourself. How are your thoughts? How is your energy? How do you feel inside and out?  

World renowned tennis player, Naomi Osaka chose to withdraw from the French Open for her own well-being. Her commitment to protecting herself is something to be supported and encouraged all around the world.

When you are deciding on what path to take and what is important to you, remember this, if it’s not a hell yes, then it’s a hell no.

If you battle mental disease processes, remember that you are not alone. We are here together. Choose rest. Start saying no. Know your triggers. Empower yourself in whatever manner you need to.

You get one life and you deserve to live it with peace and joy.

If you’re reading this and you have a friend or colleague who experiences mental health trials, don’t judge. Listen. Be present. Love. Provide support or give resources that help. That’s what real friends do.  

Mental health matters 24-7, 365 days a year.

Do not leave mental health in May. Whatever tools, strategies, or tips you have absorbed during May take it with you into June, July, August, and so on.

I will leave you with a few online resources for yourself or that you can share with a loved one.

Resources for mental health support:

Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration: https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline

Therapy For Black Girls: https://therapyforblackgirls.com/

Injured Veterans or Veterans with PTSD: www.vetcetner.va/gov

American Foundation for Suicide Prevention: www.afsp.org

Postpartum Progress: www.postpartumprogress.com

Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance: www.dbsalliance.org

Shoot Your Shot

Hey Friend! It’s hump day.  Here is your midweek check in…How are you feeling today? What are you grateful for?

Today you have been granted another opportunity. You woke up with breath, site, and wisdom. You have the knowledge and capability of doing anything you want.

What do you desire? What will you do with the dream that lives in your heart? How will that dream become a reality?

Friend, I receive emails and direct messages from women who say they want to change their lives. After these messages I ask what steps they are taking to reach their goals. The answer is usually nothing, to which I then ask why. There are various reasons or barriers, but I don’t stop at their reason. I dig deeper and ask them the tough questions, the impactful questions that require reflection and work. I then offer suggestions.

I know (yes, I do know) that there is something that you desire to do, somewhere you desire to go, or something you want to change. Imposter syndrome, uncertainty, fear, pride, and many other internal and external factors contribute to why you don’t act. 

Shoot your shot friend. What’s the worst thing that can happen? What will you do if that “thing” does happen? Most likely, you will be no worse off by trying. 

Sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. You won’t ever know what is possible if you don’t try. Go after those goals. Speak up. Start therapy. Apply for that job. Do what you want. What if the time you take that leap of faith you soar?

I’ll share someone with you. I submitted a proposal to contribute to the Black Girl In Om online publication. It has been 4.5 months and I have not heard anything. It is safe to assume that my proposal was not accepted. Am I upset? No. Am I sad? No. Do I desire to know where I can improve to be considered for the future? Yes.

There is no need for me to be sad or angry. Instead of those feelings, I sit with an open mind and heart to be and do better. Every opportunity is not meant for me. Just like every person or situation is not for you. 

I will let this experience be a catalyst to improve and grow for other opportunities.

If you desire something, go after it. Shoot your shot. You will never know what is possible if you don’t try.

Day 1 over 1 day.

Are You Living Intentionally?

Hey Friend!! I’m back! Bringing you another blog. It’s all about living with intention. Two weeks ago, I let you know that I am living life on purpose and making decisions to change the trajectory of my life. With the plan to live intentionally, I have to show up and do the work. If I tell you to do the work, I have to do the same.  

For the last 5 years I have been saying I want to have fresh flowers at my house. Not a big fancy bouquet from a florist; but a simple bouquet from my local market. This is my second week acting on that desire. When I told my therapist last year that I desired to live with intention and be present, she challenged me to do just that. So, when she and I met a few weeks back, I told her how my resignation discussion went (I’ll give you the deets after my official last day of work). She then asked me what is one word that described my feelings at the time; my word was “joy.” Joy in knowing that I am free to live life on purpose and do the work God has placed in my heart.  

We went on to discuss what brings me joy and I shared with her my love for flowers and how I keep telling myself that I want to have fresh flowers in my home. Her next words were, “what’s stopping you.” I just sat and shook my head. The answer was nothing. Nothing, but the lack of action. If I truly desire to have fresh flowers and if a $8 bouquet of flowers makes me happy, I will take the 1-mile walk or drive to the store and take 5 minutes to design my bouquet. This is being intentional friend.

The last 2 weeks I have chosen to make my flower bouquet. Here is a short video of my DIY flowers. My daughter and I made our flower arrangement the first week and she loved it. I desire for my daughter to live her life free and with intention. In order for my daughter to understand living life with intention and doing what gives her joy, I have to show her that. She will want to emulate me if I live life on purpose. 

Friend I have a few questions for you: What gives you joy? How are you living life with intention? When you wake up in the morning what words comes to mind? Is there anything that you desire to do that you have been putting off? Let today be the day where you choose to start living life on purpose. 

Small things matter; a bouquet of flowers, having a picnic in the park, going for a walk. Do what matters. Do what gives you joy. Live with intention.  

Day 1 over 1 day.

Burnout is Real…..I’m “Retiring” from Academia

Tuesday was the day. After 5 years in higher education, I submitted my letter of resignation to my department chair. I have chosen to “retire” from formal education. I have been considering shifting my energy for about a year. My passion for teaching, leading, guiding, and supporting burns bright. That passion has transitioned to mentoring and encouraging busy professionals and moms who desire to overcome burnout, get unstuck, prioritize their wellness, and achieve their life’s dreams.

Are you an educator or know anyone in education? If you answered yes, you’re aware of the many facets of education. You have to teach, serve, complete continuing education, and participate in scholarly work (research, grants, publication, etc). You also volunteer or get volunteered for organizations, committees, and other jobs. The public doesn’t realize that the job goes beyond teaching.

I know, I didn’t fully comprehend all that was required when I accepted this position. I can say I have loved almost every moment teaching my students. As a clinician and an educator, when I taught coursework in my specialties of neuro, trauma, and critical care it was exciting and rewarding. I was in my element…the place where I thrived. I’m also “in my zone”, when I’m lecturing on research topics that matter to me.

I have received many emails and telephone calls over the years, from students with words of appreciation and acknowledgement of the time commitment and hard work that goes into education. Just this morning a student emailed me with words of thanks for writing a recommendation for a fellowship. This student was accepted for the first round of interviews (super pumped for her). It is these type of moments, that I frequently reflected upon, when considering “retiring” from my academia.

However, the gratitude of my students and my love for teaching were not enough to overcome feelings of burnout. I am constantly preaching and teaching wellness, self-care, and holistic practices. I have given multiple presentations and completed research on burnout. Preventing burnout is one of my passions. You know why? Let me tell you; it’s because I have experienced burnout and it sucks. Burnout leads to depression, anxiety, lack of interest, inability to focus, poor diet, and more. Burnout affects more than your work life. Burnout jacks up your personal life and your overall wellness.

If we have connected in “real life” or on social media, you know how I feel about burnout. There is no job or environment worth your health. I have worked throughout the day and night on course work, emails, research, and scholarly lectures. There came a point where I was receiving calls, emails and text messages well after the workday had ended and on the weekend.

This was affecting my home life. When work affects you as an individual and your family something has to change. It took some time for me to decide and realize that I was ready to transition. I spoke with my husband, my mother, and my therapist before making this informed decision. I desire to live my best life with intention. Friend, you get one life…One opportunity to do the work that you have been called to. You have to live life to its fullest.

There is a scripture that says, “No man knows the hour or day, not the angels of heaven, not the Son, but the Father Alone” (Matthew 24:36). This passage is in reference to God’s return. However, it is also applicable to your life. You nor I, know when our last breath will be. We don’t know how or when we will depart this earthly world. But what you and I do know, is that we will leave here one day.

No one likes to talk about death, but it’s real. Life and time earth side are finite. You deserve to live a holistic, empowered, and fulfilled life while you’re here. And you know what, so do I. God didn’t say it would be easy. Heck, if you have lived a bit, you know it ain’t easy.

Life is hard. But friend, there are many, many, many joyous days and wonderful experiences that you are deserving of. So, I ask you a few questions:

What do you desire? What gives you joy? Are you living life intentionally? Are you fulfilled? Have you found your purpose? What actions have you taken to show up for yourself?

I have found my purpose. I am aligned with God’s will for life and I’m here for it. I’m saying NO to burnout and YES to me. My goal is to Cultivate Yes, every day of my life.

I am “retiring” from formal education at the end of this semester (that’s one yes). Friend, I am so full of joy and excitement about my next. Life in my 30s is getting good. Burnout and fear have no home here.

If you are overworked, overwhelmed, burned out, lack self-care, and trying to balance all the crazy, we are the same. I’m challenging you to look at your life, seriously, put your glasses on and do an assessment of what is important, what needs to change, and how you (YOU) can take action to say no to burnout and yes to you.

Start living life with intention. Start living life on purpose. Start Cultivating Yes. 

Let today be your Day 1.

Mammograms and Breast Exams are Self Care

Hey Friend,

I know it’s been a month; literally a month since my last blog/vlog. I need to do better. I will do better. It’s a daily battle of getting my life as Tamar Braxton would say. My goal is to send you a blog/vlog, tips, and info 3 times a month. I’m steadily working to carve out time to write and share valuable content with you. You will see the growth and commitment I have to you and this platform as I make changes in my personal and professional life.

Just hold on and bear with me over the next 4-6 weeks. If you need daily inspiration, be sure to connect with me on Instagram.  That’s where I post most days of the week and have some pretty good IG stories and live chats.

Okay back to the point. Today’s blog/vlog is about mammograms. Yep, we are talking about the boob smashing assessments that are recommended for the average woman, beginning at age 40. You’re saying, Steph you’re not 40 why are you talking about mammograms. Well friend, let me tell you, last week I had 2 mammograms and an ultrasound.

Breast cancer is not prominent in my family. However, my Midwife felt the need for me to have a mammogram after my last wellness visit, so I went, and had it done. I’ll give you a little history; I had my first mammogram when I was 27 and it sucked. My hubby found a lump in my right breast and it was one of the scariest moments in my life. After serial tests, I was released from follow up with a clear diagnosis…no cancer, no changes in the size of the lesion.

Well here we are, 8 years later with that feeling of uncertainty and fear. My vlog detailed the day of the mammogram and ultrasound. You can view it here. I will say I don’t have cancer (thank God) but I’m back to having repeat diagnostic studies for at least 1 year.

Cancer sucks, uncertainty sucks, but empowering yourself does not. Do your self-breast exams. Go to your doctor’s appointments. If finances or insurance are barriers to obtaining wellness visits, look into free or low rate clinics and into the local health department.

Your physical health matters. Your mental health matters. Self-care is a requirement. If you don’t take care of you, you can’t take care of anyone else.

Hugs and positive thoughts,

Stephanie

Below are a few tips on doing self-breast exams (disclaimer this is not medical advice; always speak with your healthcare provider).

1. Do your self-breast exam on the same day every month.

2. Visually examine your breast for changes, redness, dimpling in the mirror.

3. Repeat the mirror breast exam with your arms raised.

4. Lying down, examine your breast in a circular or up and down pattern. Your right breast is assessed with your left hand and your left breast with your right hand. Cover the entire breast including the nipple. Note any discharge from the nipple.

5. Repeat your breast exam while standing up.

6. Make an appointment with your provider if you note any lumps, changes, nodules, pain, irregularities, etc. in your breast.

Moms Solo Beach Trip

Hey Friends! I’m back with a short blog and a vlog. Last weekend I went on a solo trip to St. Simon’s Island. This was my first trip completely alone….No hubby, no kiddo, no friends, no coworkers….just me. Yep, I’m 35 and this was my first vacation without a single friend or family member. You might be thinking I’m late to this “solo vacay” thing but I beg to differ. I’m not late. I’m right on time.

Throughout the course of 2020 and actually, the last few years I’ve been overwhelmed, anxious, and in a constant state of “busy.” I’m always surrounded by people. I’m around people at home, at work, and in my business. I’ve been wanting time alone for a while but always felt “bad,” “wrong,” “guilty,” and a little “selfish” for desiring to chill out and rest without having to take care of anyone else or do anything else but focus on me.

As I look back over those feelings, I know that those negative words do not have value and are untrue. There isn’t anything wrong or bad about wanting to be alone or rest for a few days. I’m constantly telling my yoga students, friends, and mentees about the importance of self-care and rest. I believe in walking the talk. I can’t guide other people to find their greatness or to prioritize their wellness if I am not doing the same.

In 2020, my hubby asked me what I desired for Christmas and I immediately thought, “I want a weekend trip by myself.” I thought this but answered, “I don’t know.” I said IDK because I was scared of hurting his feelings and having him think less of me (stupid thoughts, I know). He repeatedly asked me what I wanted, and I just kept blowing him off. The reality is, there isn’t anything I need outside of my peace of mind. Each time he asked, the only thing that came to mind was a weekend of rest.

After about 6 weeks of my hubby asking what I wanted for Christmas I finally told him. Was he disappointed, sad, or angry? No. He said, “Okay babe, you deserve it. You work hard and support our finally; you deserve time for you. Where do you want to go?” I was quiet for a moment and then sad, I want to go to The Getaway House. He said okay and did some research on reserving it. 

A few weeks later, my hubby came back to me and said, he didn’t feel comfortable with me going to the woods by myself. Insert eye roll here as I’m listening. My response was I can be alone in the woods and handle myself. He said that I didn’t know how to use a compass, my cell phone might lose service, and I could get lost hiking in the woods. I listened and acknowledged his concerns.

My spouse wanted me to have a safe weekend alone, so I said that I understood his fears and therefore I was open to other locations. Hubby ultimately reserved the King and Prince Beach and Golf Resort in St. Simons Island. Best idea ever! I love the beach and l love quiet time.

I spent 3 nights alone and chilled out. My trip consisted of yoga, meditation, cardio, good eats, relaxing on the beach, a massage, and rest. At the end of the trip, I told Daniel I wanted the exact same gift for Christmas 2021. He laughed and said okay.

I made a short vlog about the trip. Tap the link below to view. If you’re a busy woman or mom and desire some time alone, I recommend taking a 3- or 4-day trip to reset, regroup, and rest your mind and body.

Moms Solo Weekend Beach Vlog

If You're Stressed Out, Try Box Breathing

Hello There! How are you feeling? How is your energy? How is your spirit? Last week I was stressed to the MAX! My energy was super low and I was overwhelmed. My workload has increased in addition to changes in my business.

Last Wednesday, I literally told my boss I couldn’t take on anything else. I was at the point where stress and anxiety tip towards burnout. I almost quit my job last week. You’re probably like, “WHHAATT? Girl, you almost quit?? What happened? Why? What did they do? I thought you liked teaching.”

Friend, I have a good boss. I enjoy teaching and I’m a good professor. So why did I almost quit? Not because I don’t enjoy teaching. Not because I don’t have a great boss. Not because I don’t see or hear the positive impact I’m making on students. I almost quit because I was stressed out. I immediately stopped everything I was doing, emailed my therapist and focused on my breathing.

I implemented a breathing exercise called box breathing and quickly felt better. The heaviness on my shoulders and on my chest decreased. The brain fog reduced and I was able to make a better decision about what I need to do for my health. I am a holistic practitioner. I believe that mental, physical, and spiritual health are important. If one of those areas are out of alignment things get crazy. If you reflect back over your life, you too might recall times where you were stressed and made or nearly made a rush decision.

After implementing box breathing, I scheduled a meeting with my boss and we discussed ways to improve the environment and work load. If I hadn’t taken a moment to slow down and implement a tool that I know is helpful I would have a made another decision. Below is a link to a video for box breathing. If you are stressed, anxious, or overwhelmed, this breathing exercise might be beneficial to you too.

Going forward my blogs are going to have more video content (more vlogs on the horizon), but you will also receive the occasional letter and tips to help you with wellness, burnout, and empowerment.

Be sure to subscribe to my youtube channel and share the blogs/vlogs with friends and family who can benefit from tools and strategies to decrease burnout, improve their wellness, and achieve their goals.

Box Breathing- A breathing exercise for feelings of being overwhelmed and stressed.

In All Things Give Thanks

Hey Family! I want to check in with you to see how you’re feeling. How are your spirits? Did you get enough rest today? Did you eat well? I genuinely care about how you are holding up. Send me an e-mail or DM on social media for a wellness check.

In reflecting on your physical and emotional wellness, how is your attitude? How’s your heart? Are you able to maintain a spirit of joy and appreciation? Have you heard the statement, “In all things give thanks?” It is one of my preferred scriptures and quotes that I speak over my life. Over the last 2 weeks, I have had to consistently remind myself to be thankful and to live in gratitude.

I started this blog on Thanksgiving Day but was unable to complete it. My dog, Georgia Claire, became extremely ill on Thanksgiving Eve. She had 2 seizures and her blood sugar was 20-30s. My hubby had to take her to the emergency vet that night. It was a battle raising her glucose. The veterinary team at Woodland Animal Hospital finally stabilized her with IV fluids and other medications, and she started eating. I’m so thankful for their entire staff.

We were able to pick her up Thanksgiving night, but Georgia wasn’t the same. Our sweet girl was diagnosed with Diabetes in the spring. She rapidly developed cataracts. We had been planning for her cataract surgery and the team at Auburn University hoped to optimize her blood sugar and a few other medical conditions so that she could have her surgery by January 2021.

When Daniel brought Georgia back home on Thanksgiving, she ate and drank but appeared disoriented. She was whining through the night and walking into things. Prior to Thanksgiving Eve, she knew her way around the house. As I reflect on these days, I now see that Georgia was showing us additional signs that she wasn’t well. She had just recovered from a UTI and an ear infection, and was recently diagnosed with hypothyroidism. So, we were trying to regulate her thyroid in addition to the blood sugar, when she took a turn for the worse during this week of Thanksgiving.

On Black Friday, sweet Georgia developed intractable vomiting and profound weakness. She couldn’t keep anything down. My hubby had to carry our 90lb dog up and down the stairs. This was such a sad and emotionally taxing time. I talked with our primary veterinarian from North Griffin Animal Hospital, who was in another state, via telephone and text about what was going on. Dr. Lexie was on vacation but immediately made time for my family. I shared with her at length Georgia’s symptoms, blood glucose, confusion, and more. We ultimately ended up having to take Georgia back to the emergency vet.

On Saturday, November 28, 2020 Georgia transitioned. My hubby and princess took the news really hard. As a wife, mom, and healthcare professional, I’m the one that people seek out with questions and I’m able to give answers and hold space…..but it’s completely different when you see your baby crying and your husband filled with grief. 

I had never saw our daughter cry so hard in her 4 years of living. All I could do was hold her and allow her to feel and share what was in her heart. This has been the hardest 2 weeks for our sweet girl. She has started to understand but she still says she wants her sister back (that’s what she called Georgia). Our daughter sleeps with a maternity photo book that are full of pictures of Georgia to give her comfort. My hubby and I are committed to allowing her to fully process her feelings and share without pushing her to move on. As you know, everyone processes grief differently. We steadily remind her of all the good times we had together and that now Georgia isn’t sick anymore. I think knowing Georgia isn’t ill makes our girl feel better. 

Now I have to tell you about Sug (short for sugar, the nickname I call Daniel). He loved Georgia Claire so much and he was working so hard to get her new eyes for Christmas. Over the last 2 months all he talked about was getting her ready for surgery but unfortunately, we couldn’t give her, her sight back. He wanted her to be happy and healthy and to be able see us again.

Between him witnessing 1 of the seizures, the vomiting, and her weakness, he looked so lost about what to do. This time was extremely sad. In our 10 years of marriage, I don’t think I have ever witnessed him in such despair. My heart melted for him. Sug is always strong, supportive, and encouraging. He’s my person and I’m his.

I’m thankful that we have each other. I live in gratitude that that we support each. I live in gratitude knowing that Georgia isn’t suffering anymore. I give thanks that Sug and I are able to be the support system that our daughter needs. I give thanks that our family is even stronger through this loss. I give thanks in the sadness. I give thanks in the grief. I give thanks in the loss.

There’s a song that I used to love to hear as a kid growing up in the AME church. I’ve listened to it multiple times over 2020; and even more so these last 2 weeks. This song has been a place of uplifting for me. It’s called “I won’t complain.” If you haven’t heard it before, I’ll link it for you here.

In all things give thanks.

If you’re experiencing a hard time, or you’ve lost someone or something, know that it’s not over. The sad times, the grief, and the loss are not the end of your story. Those experiences are only a chapter in the book of your life.

In the good times, give thanks. In the happy times, give thanks. In the sad times, give thanks. In the anger, give thanks. In the loss, give thanks. In every season of your life, give thanks. Each day is blessing. Each day is another opportunity for you to be your best self, for you, and for someone else.

Live in gratitude.

A Letter of Gratitude

It is the week of Thanksgiving. We are living, loving, hustling, and working. In all the things, you are being reminded to be grateful. You are being reminded to be appreciative of family, friends, health, your job, etc.

In this time of year where we discuss gratitude and appreciation on a higher level, have you taken a moment to be thankful for you? Have you told yourself good job? Have you stepped back to appreciate you? Most likely, I imagine that you haven’t.  

Yesterday, I wrote myself a letter. Do you know why I wrote it? Probably not. The reason I wrote this letter was to remind myself that I’m doing the work, that I’m valuable, that I matter, and that I’m seen. I wrote this letter in affirmation of the work that I’m doing. I wrote this letter in appreciation of me.

I wrote this letter as a reminder that I don’t need anyone else to validate me. I don’t need anyone else to tell me “good job.” Instead, I (Stephanie Epps) need to validate myself. I need to show myself appreciation and love. Compassion, gratitude, and love start with self. It’s difficult to show someone else compassion, gratitude, or love when you don’t show them to you.

Below is my short letter. After you read it, I invite you to stop and spend 5 minutes to write your own letter of appreciation. You have 5 minutes. You are worth 5 minutes to say thank you, to you.

A letter to myself:

Hey Sis 👑!

I see you: Glowing, Shining, Working, Caring, Teaching, Dreaming, Manifesting, and Showing Up!

You’re a dope soul!

That smile looks so GOOD on you. Your eyes are bright; they are full of light and joy.

All, that hard work you’re doing is paying off. You are impacting people’s lives every day. You are helping people heal, stand in their power, and go after their goals.

Sis, keep up the good work.

Continue. Keep showing up. Keep doing the work. Stay the course.

You got this!

Boundaries, How Many of Us Have Them?

Hey Fam! How are ya’ll doing? I’m A-M-A-Z-I-N-G! Let me say it again in my excited voice: I AM A-M-A-Z-I-N-G!!! Ya’ll, I feel so free. Utterly free!

Yes, I know I’m crazy blogging. Is crazy blogging a thing? IDK but I feel so good. I have to tell ya’ll why. It’s because of Boundaries. My freedom, peace, and joy are because of the word “NO.” I’m 35 years old and I finally do not feel guilty for telling someone no. Maintaining my boundaries contributes to feeling free and protecting my peace.

Ya’ll know I’m constantly saying protect your peace and stand in your truth. I tell you that because you deserve to speak openly and be at peace with your words and decisions. Over the course of 2020, I have done A LOT of work on my boundaries. I have delved deep into my personal self-study, reflection, and deconstruction of the programming of society.

I have to be truthful. The process was U-G-L-Y. Do ya’ll know that old school cheer? U-G-L-Y, You Ain’t Got No Alibi, You ugly? If you don’t know it, here’s clip of the cheer from the movie, Wildcats.

I know I’m not ugly. My soul, my heart, and my outer being are beautiful. But the process of breaking down the chains of programming, fear, and passivity were ugly.  Ya’ll I have sat in discomfort. I have journaled. I have questioned myself, my choices, and what’s next. The answers I always received were truth. In life we already have the answers. We already know what we need to do, but fear of hurting someone or disappointing others or ourselves keeps us bound. It’s that fear that prevents us from maintaining our boundaries. 

I have been working with Tee Brooks, a sociologist, mindfulness teacher, and transformative wellness coach on my boundaries. This work has been life changing. Just a mere 7 months ago, I was a pushover. I always put everyone else first. I adjusted things to fit others needs rather than my own. I changed my business to accommodate other people.

PSA! PSA! If you’re an entrepreneur don’t do that. Make your business work for you. Be in control. Be a leader.

Let me tell you, I would let people (friends, family, colleagues, etc) have their way at my detriment. Ya’ll don’t be like me. Be better than me.

Yesterday, was a huge step for me. I lost a friend over maintaining my boundaries. You know what? I’m not sad and I’m not angry about it. I actually felt sooooo good about the work I have done for me, that I wrote this blog. I won’t go into the details of what transpired, but I will say that you will lose some friends, family, and other associates over protecting yourself. Know that it will happen, and it will be okay. The people that are for you and who understand boundaries will respect your boundaries and support you. 

Don’t be afraid of saying “NO.” Don’t be afraid of putting your needs first. When you do the deep work, your eyes, your heart, and your spirit will lift. Friend, the feeling of freedom is like no other. I welcome freedom. I invite you to do the deep work that leads to peace and freedom.

You deserve to protect your peace, affirm yourself, and to maintain your boundaries. Learn to say the word “no” without guilt. If you need help with boundaries, contact Tee Brooks. This is not an ad. I only share information, strategies, and products that I actually have experienced the benefits of.

If you’re ready to let go of fear, check out my Empowered Living: Fear Setting program. It was released last week.

I want to leave you with 5 ways to mindfully and peacefully say “NO.”

1. No thank you.

2. I’m not interested.

3. I’m honored but I can’t.

4. My schedule is full.

5. I am not taking on additional responsibilities.

Friend, if you know anyone who can benefit from this blog, make sure to share it with them. #protectyourpeace #maintainyourboundaries #sayno

BIG FAITH! My First Vlog

Hello Family! How are you? I hope well. How are you spirits? Are you holding up okay? How’s your faith? Have you been showing up for yourself? Let me know; seriously, I’m actually one of those people who genuinely care and want to see you filled with joy.   

Fam let tell you, I have been mentally preparing to write my “BIG FAITH” blog for weeks. Yes, I said….weeks!! You’re probably thinking, “Steph, I’ve received your blogs and event letters. How have you not written this faith blog yet?” Well friend, this is why, I have wavered. I have been on a seesaw, a pendulum if you will, about what do. I have been uncertain. I wasn’t certain in my spirit, in my heart of hearts about what actions I should take, where to go, or what to believe. I did not have clarity; and you know clarity is a requirement in order to progress.

On October 9, 2020 I started writing my “BIG FAITH” blog. You know I write about faith and doing the work to achieve your dreams and reach your full potential. As I was writing my blog, I was well into page 2 when I stopped. I said “Steph, nobody is going to read this blog. It’s going to be too long.” I then said to myself, “Steph, make a vlog instead.” So that’s what I did. I recorded this vlog on faith, commitment, action, and outcomes. This vlog is my story; it’s my truth of my second baby, my business “Indigo Soul Yoga.” This vlog tells you where I came from, where we are now, and what’s next. I hope you can sit down, sip some tea, and take a listen. The link is below. If you find value in the vlog or think it might motivate or help someone else make sure to share it with them.

BIG FAITH: 1st VLOG

Opportunities:Yep/Nope Challenge

What Do You Do with the Opportunities that You’ve Been Given?

Hello there! It’s been a few weeks since my last blog post. Sending my apologizes for not keeping up. Between work, home, social media posts, and expanding my biz life got a little busy. I can say that I’ve been sharing words of wisdom and encouragement on my IG and FB pages. If you’re needing some support and positivity head over and like Professor Epps.

Now back to the subject at hand: Opportunities. Opportunities are circumstances that arise and make something else possible. Opportunities are vast and varied. Opportunities include additional time, promotions, leadership, and more.

I was talking with my mother a couple of days ago about the students of Morehouse College that had their student loans paid off. We discussed what a blessing that was and how that opportunity can set the foundation for those gentlemen’s freedom.

What opportunities have you received this year? What opportunities are you manifesting that lead toward freedom? Over the last 2 months I have received multiple requests to speak at workshops and on podcasts. Let me be real with you….it felt nice to be wanted, especially after the cancellations of events due to COVID-19. My spirit was ignited when I received the e-mails. However, I did get discouraged because I couldn’t attend them all and honestly, I didn’t want to say yes to each opportunity. 

I teach protecting your peace and living intentionally. I believe in mindfulness and knowing your “why”. Every opportunity does not require or deserve a yes. Every opportunity does not lead you into the path of possibility, truth, or freedom. If “it” doesn’t uplift you or bring light, it’s not for you.

When you aren’t sure if you should say yes to new opportunities, take 15-30 minutes and jot down a pros and cons list. If your pros outweigh your cons you have your answer.

Live in truth. Live in peace. Live with intention. What God has for you is for you. Saying NO to 1 opportunity, opens your spirit to a bigger YES.

I have included a “Yep/Nope” Pros and Cons list for you. If you know who E-40 is or if you’re on TikTok you know the Yep/Nope challenge. Play E-40’s song, Choices and ask yourself some yes/no questions while you complete your pros and cons list. This is a lighthearted way to obtain clarity on those big opportunities or decisions. If you’re feeling “extra” you can make your 1st or 50th TikTok.

Change Your Attitude, Change Your Life

Last week I turned 35. At the start of 2020, I had chosen this year to be “the year of I am.” I had so many plans for 2020—but you know what happens when you plan things, right? The plans often don’t go the way you hope. I was supposed to go to London, Paris, and Bali this year; but of course, I didn’t make it to those places. I had planned to travel and push my business to the next level. Unfortunately, COVID-19 put a halt to those plans. At first, I was devastated emotionally due to the effects COVID-19 had on my patients, my friends, and my business. 

It took me some time to pivot and adjust my attitude regarding the pandemic and its effect on my life. However, when I made the conscious decision to let go of sadness and negativity, I was able to see opportunity. I was able to see growth. I was able to appreciate the blessings and abundance that stood before me. 

Attitude is everything. When you’re in a negative space, all you see is negative. If you’re like me and are usually a kind-hearted, giving, supportive, and positive person, you can quickly recognize when your energy and emotions are out of sorts. You begin to have poor sleep, eating, and wellness habits; and you know what that leads to right? Depression, anxiety, and anger.

It is imperative that you pull yourself up and out of that negative space or otherwise it will take over your thoughts, attitude, and physical wellness. Your wellness depends on your internal health just as much as your external. If you’re in a sad place or have baseline depression or anxiety you must be in tune with you. You must be able to quickly recognize the signs of depression before you get to that place of sadness or of anger. 

It’s time to find ways to flip the switch from “why me” or “why is their life better than mine.” It’s time to change your attitude to one of “I am blessed”, “I am grateful”, “I am resilient”, “I am empowered.” You’re probably saying that’s easier said than done. However, if you choose to be open to the idea positivity, the idea of affirmations and mantras, you just might begin to feel and see the difference.

Since January 1, 2020, I have typed an “I am” affirmation/statement/mantra on my social media, hence “the year of I am” I mentioned earlier. Each “I am” statement guides my day. Sometimes, I return to my preferred affirmation (I am peace) and repeat it quietly to myself throughout the day.

Repeating that affirmation uplifts my spirits and allows me to walk in grace and in peace with my colleagues, my friends, and my patients. I have grown to be able to show compassion, grace, and understanding in new heights this year. It feels good to be able to hold space for people and be at peace with myself.

I’m going to give you 5 affirmations you can repeat to yourself or journal about over the next few weeks. I invite you to pick one and say it to yourself every day for the remainder of the year. At the end of 2020, let me know how that affirmation has changed your life. If you choose to commit. If you choose to change your attitude and be up to something bigger than yourself, you will change your life.

I changed my attitude and it changed my life. I let go of anger and sadness regarding 2020 and chose to be happy; I chose to be thankful for where I am right now and for the people who impact my life. For my 35th birthday I went to the mountains and visited wineries with some of my closest friends. If you’re in Georgia, make sure to visit Fainting Goat Vineyard and Enghelheim Vineyards. We hiked, laughed, danced, practiced yoga, and sang our hearts out. It was the perfect way to restore, reset, and refresh our minds, hearts, and bodies.

Change your attitude, change your life.

Below are your 5 affirmations to repeat and journal on.

1. I am strong

2. I am happy

3. I am peace

4. I am worthy

5. I am resilient

Do You Need A Personal Sabbatical? Do You Need To Rest?

This summer I took a “mini personal sabbatical”. If you’re not quite sure what a sabbatical is, let me you. In the traditional since, a sabbatical is when a person takes an extended period of time away from work (1 year+) with paid leave (sometimes unpaid).  Sabbatical’s are well known in academia. Tenured professors in large institutions or who complete a lot of research take time away from the university with approval for their leadership.

Here’s the truth: I haven’t worked in academia for 20 years, nor am I published researcher. I’m a clinician and young professor, with ideas and a drive to expand beyond the limits of the classroom, and teach the importance of holistic and collaborative care to my students.

I’ve been teaching a few years now; but as you know, in addition to working in academia, I’m a nurse practitioner, an entrepreneur and most importantly a wife and a mom. I wear a lot of hats; and I do a lot of things. Sometimes, I get overwhelmed managing it all. 

Since I begin teaching, I have worked year-round; I have taught spring, summer, and fall and also worked my NP job year-round. Towards the end of the spring 2020 semester faculty were contacted about teaching in the summer. I initially responded that I was available and willing to teach.

BUT Friend let me tell you……after I hit submit on that e-mail, I felt a heaviness in my spirit. I kept thinking to myself, “Steph you’re doing too much, COVID-19 is rampant, your business has taken a huge hit (negatively), and your husband and daughter need you.” After about 5 days of poor sleep habits and constantly having this conversation with myself, I talked with my spouse and said, “I don’t want to teach this summer, I need a break.” He said he understood, and it was fine with him.

I took another couple of days to think about it and e-mailed my leadership that I wanted to withdraw my ability to teach courses during summer 2020. I didn’t know where I was going to make up my salary, but I knew that God would provide. I knew that I had to protect my peace. I had to advocate for myself, just as I advocate for my patients and my students. Advocating for me, was relaxing, breathing, practicing restorative yoga, diving deep into my meditation practice and self-study.

I took 3 months off from teaching and poured my time and energy into resting, connecting with my husband, and pivoting my business. I was able to work 2-3 days a week at my practice and did not have any concerns about my income.  My spirit was restored; I was able to contribute to my family, and able to support my business.

Are you tired? Are you stressed out? Are you overwhelmed? Do you need to rest? Are you clueless on what it means to rest and restore?

If you answered yes to at least 1 of those questions, it is time to refill your cup. Maybe, you can’t, take a mini personal sabbatical or a long professional sabbatical; but what you can do is learn to relax and restore.

Join me for Resilient Moms: Self-Care Series 

Resilient Moms is a 4 week livestream group relaxation series where you will learn the foundations of deep stretching through yin yoga and learn to rest through restorative yoga and meditation. Now is the time to:

Breathe

Destress &

Relax

Here’s the deal:

You are powerful and resilient. Friend it is time to step into your power and join in this 4-week series where you will focus on your own self-care and have space to breathe.

You will receive weekly guides and access to a private Facebook group for support and encouragement to commit to your self-care journey. If you miss a week don’t worry, you will receive a link with the recorded session.

Dates: Sunday 5PM-6:15PM, 9/6, 9/13, 9/20, 9/27

Investment: $95

Use discount code “resilient” for 20% off this series.

If you’re not a mom but need to rest and restore you can join as well.

You deserve rest. You deserve peace of mind. You deserve to relax. Be A Yes to your own self-care and join me in the practice of rest and resiliency.

You Can't Do Life Alone

2020 has been a beast. I thought 2019 was crazy, but OMG 2020 came in hot and it’s gotten hotter. COVID-19, cultural appropriation, protests, riots, killing of transgender people, loss of jobs, social distancing, quarantine, and the loss of communication and connection with friends and family--are just a few of the things we have all had to manage.

I know that you have been impacted by so much this year. Sadness, anger, grief, and anxiety are just a few words that many people have shared with me regarding how they have felt throughout the year.

I imagine this year has been difficult to navigate emotionally and physically. I have a few questions for you: how are you managing it all? How are you protecting your peace? Have you been able to connect with friends and family from a distance? If you haven’t now is the time. Choose today rather than waiting until tomorrow. Day 1>one day.

I shared with you a few weeks ago that I had a zoom girl’s night with some of my closest friends this summer. It was great. We have a group text feed that has been an essential way we have communicated.

I have been trying to consistently check in via text and telephone with friends and family to let my people know they are not alone. In this season of social distancing, quarantine, and loss it is easy to feel alone and that you have to do it all. I know you are STRONG, CAPABLE, and INDEPENDENT.

But friend remember, you DON’T HAVE TO DO IT ALL. You can take time to for you. It’s okay to step back and ask for help. Call or text a friend and let them know you need a listening ear or some extra support.

This past week in our Goal Setting Roadmap to Success program we talked about support systems and accountability.  According to Merriam-Webster Dictionary, a “support system is a network of people who provide an individual with practical or emotional support.” A support system for this journey of life is a requirement. Support goes beyond working toward a goal. Support is needed to make it through the trials of life. Support is needed to combat the loneliness of quarantine.

My friend you cannot do life alone. When you are seeking freedom from sadness, guilt, and loss, you need a person or your people.  Although, I am one of the “strong friends” I too feel sad on occasion and need up lifting.

I am so blessed to have people who check on me and send me prayers and positive thoughts. I called a friend of mine this week and just shared with her how I was feeling down. I didn’t need her to do anything but just to be there. And guess what, that’s just what she did. She listened and held space for me. It was cathartic and the perfect reminder that we all need support.

Friend if you haven’t checked in on your people in a while because life is busy, take a moment to send a quick text or call. If you need a little extra support let go of fear, let go of idea of judgement, and let your person know you need them.

Remember you cannot do life alone. We rise by lifting each other up. Know that I’m here for you too. We can chat over tea via zoom or skype if you need.

Sending peace and light during the storm.

Just a few of my people.

A Hard Truth of a Working Mom

Mom life isn’t easy. Yep, I said it. If you’re a mom, you know it’s true. If you’re a stay at home mom, work from home mom, or if you’re a mom working outside the home, you know momming ain’t easy. As a mother you care for your child, your partner (if you have one), your pet (if you have one), your home, and hopefully make sometime for yourself. Unfortunately, the self-care aspect of mom life often doesn’t happen.

I’m going to share something with you. It’s one of my hard truths and I’ve made peace with it. I’m a working mom and sometimes I don’t want to do anything. After I have commuted nearly an hour to work, worked 10-12 hours, and commuted an hour home, I sometimes don’t want to do anything. I don’t want to cook, I don’t want to exercise, I don’t want to clean, or do anything that requires expending energy.

Does anyone else feel this way? I’m sure I’m not alone with these feelings. I imagine that you or another mom you know has felt this way at one point or another. GUESS WHAT!! IT’S OKAY!! These feelings are normal. Do not feel bad for wanting to just chill when you get off work. Don’t feel guilty for wanting some quiet time for yourself. Sis, you deserve it.

If you have been home all day, cooking, cleaning, and teaching your child….you deserve some time for you. If you have been working from home, trying to teach your child, and manage your household, you too deserve to some time to relax. If you have been at work all day, coordinated child pick up/dinner, etc you also deserve some time for yourself.

It doesn’t matter if you stay at home, work from, or work outside the home, whichever of these roles apply to you, know that you are important. Know that you worthy of self-care. Know that your feelings and need for time for yourself are valid.  Sis, I’m right there with you and so are thousands of mothers around the world.

 Friend it’s time to drop the feelings of guilt, uncertainty, and anxiety. It’s time to say yes to your own needs. It’s time to say yes to happiness, joy, peace, freedom, and abundance. You deserve these things. You are worthy.

I invite you to take a few moments for yourself throughout the week and love on you. Everyone can’t get massage or go to a spa for self-care, so I’m going to give you 5 things you can do just for you:

1. Once a week take long bath or hot shower, with the door locked and don’t let anyone in (yes friend: no kids, partners, dogs, etc…no one can enter).

2. Get out in nature, even if it’s just a 15-minute walk by yourself or with your bestie.

3. Have a Zoom/Skype/Facetime Girls night.

4. Choose to not do anything for anyone after 5PM (maybe this just happens once a month—give it a try).

5. Read a book or binge watch your favorite tv show.

You may look at this list and say there’s no way I can do all of these things every week. But maybe you can do 1 of them each week or maybe pick 2 items from this list to incorporate into your self-care goals for the month of July.

If you’re in need of some extra relaxation techniques that you can do at home let me know and I’ll give you my free relaxation guide .

I’m sending you big bear hugs and positive thoughts across the miles. If you know me in real life—you know I’m a hugger—yeah hugs are kind of my thing.

I hope you have an amazing week and a joyful second half of 2020.

With Gratitude,

Stephanie

SELF CARE: I Converted My Laundry Room into My Zen Den

Hey Fam!

I’m a wife, working mom, and small business owner. I pour my time and energy into other people every day—my family, my patients, my students, and my yoga clients. When I get home from a long day I want to chill out and do nothing. Sound familiar? Do you also make time for everyone else but don’t have time for you?

 Well fam, let me tell you—in my house everyone has a space to relax and enjoy; princess has a play room (it used to be my reading nook) and my husband has a billiards room. I felt that I didn’t have a space for myself—a place just for me to breathe and be. So, over the last few months I felt the need to design a child free, spouse free area for myself.

The Zen Den has been in my heart and on my mind for a while. I wanted my own oasis of peace; somewhere I could go to chill and relax alone. On Mother’s Day 2020, The Zen Den came to exist.

My Zen Den is a laundry room conversion……well actually the washer and dryer are still in the space but my hubby helped me remove all the clutter and storage, and organize and design the area to fit my needs. The Zen Den isn’t fancy or something off of HGTV, but it is perfect for me.

I have my spin bike set up, ceiling fans, my yoga mat, cushions, blankets, my singing bowls, drum, ukulele, and some of my plant babies in one space. Over the last four weeks I have been able to relax, exercise, and work on growing my small business in the Zen Den. 

I told my husband and daughter that when the door to the Zen Den is closed that no one can enter unless it is an emergency (lol…yep I sure did). This is called self-care and protecting my peace. Friend, you too can tell your family or friends you need space. It is not selfish to put your needs first. It is not selfish to acknowledge that you need to refill your cup. It is not selfish to relax or relish in some alone time.

Once you realize that your needs are just as important as anyone else’s, you can let go of fear, anxiety, and uncertainty regarding your self-care needs. You deserve some time for you. You deserve peace. You deserve rest. You deserve restoration. You cannot pour from an empty cup.

I implore you to find a self-care regimen and release any guilt that arises regarding your needs. You are important. You are worthy. You are deserving. 

Sending virtual hugs,

Stephanie

In Order to Heal You Must Feel

Sickness, Job loss, Depression, Anxiety, Anger, Stress, Uncertainty--Do these words resonate with you? Friend, YOU ARE NOT ALONE. As a wife, mom, healthcare provider, and wellness + personal growth advocate, I have experienced these emotions as well.

With the murder of George Floyd, men and women around the world have a heightened sense of anger, disappointment, and fear.  People are responding by protesting and rioting.

Friend we have a choice to come together as one for humanity. We must use our voices to uplift each other, transform as individuals, and as a nation. Transformation starts inside. 

Are you ready to drop what you know and step into possibility? In order to heal we must feel. Healing begins with self and spreads outwardly to family, friends, and communities.

Beginning Monday, June 1, 2020 I am hosting a free virtual event for 30 days of transformation. 30 days of transformation is designed to set a foundation for clarity, peace, stamina, and strength. These life practices are needed so that you can move forward into healing and into your destiny.

My hope is that the clarity and strength that you find in the next 30 days, not only helps you individually, but translates into your relationship with friends and colleagues, and moreover into your community. 

Now you may be asking, “What is 30 days of transformation?”  Friend, 30 days of transformation is an opportunity to delve deep within yourself and works towards becoming the best person you can be.

30 days of transformation is a journey of movement, meditation, and reflection. I will offer you a daily topic to reflect or journal on, a 5-minute meditation, and 5 sun salutations. If yoga isn’t your jam you can complete any other type of physical activity (walking, running, cycling, swimming, golf, etc).

During these 30 days, you will set a goal or a dream that will help fuel your desire to complete this journey of transformation. Write down your goal and look back over it during this next month.

You will not be alone over the next 30 days. I will be here to support you. Our community of transformation participants will be supporting you and holding you accountable for moving forward into a place of possibility, peace, and prosperity.

I will be sharing the daily topic for reflection and meditation on my Facebook Page (Professor Epps) and on my Instagram (Professor Epps). If you have any questions don't hesitate to send me a message or you can email me directly at stephanie@professorepps.com .

If you know anyone who would benefit from this journey of transformation, share this blog post with them.

With Gratitude,

Stephanie

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